Hope

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We let ourselves fall victims in the hand of depression. And we are the ones that prevent ourselves from getting out of it. We want a particular person to help us out and believe that only that person can help us. This way we close the door for everyone else. We close the door for anyone who can and wants to help. We close the door for anyone who actually truly loves us and cares for us. We close the door on anyone else who understands what we are going through. Only in the hope that the one person would understand and help us get through this.

See, hope is a good thing. In fact the best thing. But not always. Hope works only when looked for in the right place. Often we look for hope in the very wrong place and return disappointed. This way we fear never to hope again. Never to trust again.

This is what pushes us to the never ending cycle of depression. We expect from the wrong person, hope in the wrong place, get broken, and never trust again.

If again we find any other chances of helping ourself to build the power of trust , chances are, it might again be at the wrong place with the wrong person. We never open our doors for the right person to enter our lives. Only because we have made our mind that none except that very person has the ability to help us.

But this puts the person we expect from in jeopardy. They never know that they are the chosen one, because we never say. We never convey. We just expect them to know themselves, we try dropping hints to which they might not even have the slightest clue. They never know that they are required to help us. Not until we express. Not until we make them realise that. Not until we make them realise that we need their help.

We don't come up to the final stage. We don't go through the stage where we must express and confess. We come to the step where we 'think' that we connect and understand each other completely, which we don't. We think it isn't necessary to convey because the other person has to know and figure out themselves, only because we think we connect, which is not. And believe this to be the end of it.

This puts the person at very vulnerable place. Now we are ruining not only ours, but their's as well as the ones who truly understand us and who truly want to help us. We make their life miserable by making our life miserable. Only because they can't watch us go through this alone, they end up thinking that they failed us. They can help and want to help and this is only possible only when we give them a chance. Hope can reply you through unexpected ways.

Give them a chance. Open the door. Do not hope at the wrong place. Do not hope for the wrong person. You know who the right person is, you have just decided not to figure out. You are blocking your own path. Help yourself to help you. Hope is a beautiful thing.

                                                                 ~RV

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